Episode 292 of Hello Counselor is another installment of sh*t husbands do. The episode, which aired on October 3rd, 2016, features guests Hwang Jungmin, Alex, and Ho Ran.
The first case revolves around a wife who is going crazy because her husband not only demands to eat only meat for his meals but also makes her cook fresh rice and side dishes for breakfast, lunch and dinner. He won’t touch leftovers at all. In addition, every meal has to be completely different. That’s full-out cooking three times a day - ain’t nobody got time for that. In addition, he claims he can’t stand pungent smells and won’t allow any vegetables to touch the dinner table, so he even makes his wife, who can’t eat meat, eat on the ground. That’s messed up – she’s not some pet that he owns. The poor wife has already lost 10kg since getting married.
People don’t have to like the same foods for a relationship to work. A big issue here is that the couple is inconsiderate of each other – one feels overly entitled and the other doesn’t feel entitled at all. When asked whether he feels bad for making his wife eat on the ground, the husband says that she "seems fine.” He’s selfish and holds a belief that has made all too many appearances on the show - that the breadwinner of the household can do whatever he pleases with his money and his wife should do whatever he says. He thinks that the money he earns is solely for his use and will even take money away from his own kid, who has developmental issues and needs speech therapy, in order to eat an extra piece of fried chicken. And his wife, who doesn’t feel like she can stand up for herself, actually puts up with it all. As one of the hosts admirably questioned the husband, “where do you get the belief that you deserve this treatment?”
In response, he says that his wife can do that much for him if she loves him. Who hasn’t heard that BS before. Love isn’t about demanding and taking from the other half. In this situation, one person’s doing too much of the giving and the other is doing too much of the taking.