Oh, good old sibling rivalry. On Episode 283 of Hello Counselor, which aired on July 18th, 2016 with special guests Pyo Jinin, An Wooyeon, and Bora and Dasom from Sistar, one of the cases revolves around a 26-year-old man who has suffered through life as the ugly duckling of the family. He’s especially frustrated because he is constantly being compared to his brother, who is apparently 100 times more handsome than he is (IMHO people are definitely exaggerating). He’s tired of people saying that he’s ugly to his face, comparing him to his brother and discriminating against him based on his looks. I mean, if you were constantly told by your own mother that you were too ugly, wouldn’t you feel frustrated and have some serious insecurities, too?
His parents won’t even let him pursue a singing career because of his looks yet allowed his brother to pursue an acting career. And his little sister refuses to let him pick her up in front of her friends because she thinks he’s too ugly. Come on people, that’s just not right. This joke has lasted way too long and done enough harm. A big issue here is that he’s being looked down upon and given fewer opportunities just because he’s “ugly.” His own family even plays favorites and cares a lot more about his other siblings. There’s a difference between being realistic and being mean for the sake of being mean. And if we’re really going to go there, why don’t we talk about who gave him those genes in the first place?
Instead of making him feel worse than he already does, those around him should try to do something actually productive. Let’s be real, looks matter in this world. Good looks can get you far. But there will always be more beautiful people out there, and outward appearances definitely aren’t everything. Instead of constantly being told what he can’t do, he should be encouraged to practice self-love and not be judged for something he has no control over. The hosts head in the right direction when they help him focus on aspects of himself that he feels confident about, such as his singing ability. But they shouldn’t have dragged his brother in – the hosts had good intentions when they were trying to find something that he was better than his brother at, but that may only encourage more comparisons and hard feelings between the brothers. Finding reasons to like himself is a good place to start.